Setting Small Goals For Big Goals

Sometimes we are afraid of dreaming big. We think of the different impossibilities and the hurdles we need to take just to achieve our dreams. But actually, when you dream big, it doesn’t mean you will have to start big as well. No. Only the richest in the world can do this.

Work on the smallest ingredient of your dream and gradually, push yourself to work on the bigger ones. The only thing you need at this point is to have great determination. No one actually starts from the top. Even the people who became the most wealthy all over the world, start their journey from scratch. They start from a small scale and turn out into big. They made it because they are determined. Though it will take time, they are willing to do it until they reach their final goal.

Follow these simple tips on how to break down one big puzzle into smaller problems that you need to solve.

Crackdown your big goal.
Know the bottom line of your big goal. Just like if you are asked to build a building. Before it stands as high and big as a mountain, workers start building it with small pieces of bricks and stone. Without the little materials, the building could not stand all alone.

Make a plan.
Start making an appropriate plan on how to solve the jigsaw puzzle of your big goal. You start by making a feasible and practical plan. This includes all of the problems that you see you will face in the near future. You should have suggested and realistic solutions to each one of these problems.

Write down achievable goals.
Set achievable goals either per week or per month. You can also make it per day if you want. Be realistic at any cost and don’t fantasize. Determine what you can really achieve on a short time basis to not waste your time, money, and effort.

Prepare yourself for larger tasks.
Gradually when you already become more capable of handling different things and situations, your next step is to start acting. Start making that dream a reality.

Celebrate your achievements. With these tips in mind, you can make everything happen according to your plan. In every challenge you face and achievement you reach, every little effort you put on it is worth it. Failures really come along the way. But don’t forget to always dust yourself off and start again (from scratch if it’s what’s necessary).

Gloomy Debt and Depression

There’s no use in sugar-coating the very real and relevant topic of gloomy debt and depression. These are universal phenomena that afflict each and every human being who has crossed over to the adult world. If puberty already was a drag, adulthood is even way more dragging. Honestly, it can be really cold, harsh and, yes, sometimes depressing. But it is a naked truth that we should talk about face to face, without masks and pretenses. Let us begin dissecting these two inseparable subjects: gloomy debt and depression.

Transition from Childhood to Adulthood

As very young children, all we did was play. As we started growing up, some homework and little chores are gradually mixed with play. As we got older, this work-play balance becomes irreversibly overturned. The older we got, the more work we had to do. And play is sometimes no longer an accessible option, but a scarce privilege. That’s the reality of it all, and reality does bite, when you come to truly think of it. Perhaps that’s the whole idea behind the story of Peter Pan, who remains a child forever. The author’s solution is to remain in childhood, never having to cross the bridge to adulthood. But fairy tales are fairy tales. In the real world, all of us have to grow up. No exceptions.

Puberty is the in-between phase wherein we start to figure out this harsh reality. And at this young age, everything can be confusing. Life is like one big blur and you don’t really see anything clearly amongst the confusion. At this transitional stage, we are bombarded with overwhelming responsibilities. Responsibilities that we never even heard of as children, but will be our eternal companion as young adults and until we turn old and grey.

The Root Cause of Depression

This is most probably the root cause of depression— the sudden, inevitable and overwhelming major life changes, transitioning from being a happy and carefree child to a stressed adult.

Most of us chant to ourselves on a daily basis “I’m okay, I’m okay,” when we’re actually not. We put on our best clothes and our best smiles, trying to prove to ourselves and to other people that we’re okay. And this further and further deepens our anxiety, transforming it to a full-blown depression. In a nutshell, we are depressed because we can no longer do whatever we want but are now bound by endless obligations and responsibilities. We experience depression when we feel no sense of control in our own life.

Debt- A Forerunner to Depression

From being spoon-fed and spoiled babies, we are forced to grow up into hard-faced adults with hard responsibilities. All our lives, we have depended solely on our parents, not only for all the love and comfort but also for financial coverage. But as part of growing up, we had to learn how to deal with the money problem ourselves. And if our transition from being a financial ward to being in full financial custody of ourselves is not smooth, then we end up in debt.

Majority of young adults today are still paying their student loans. And for a young professional just starting out in the corporate world, being buried in debt can be daunting and demoralizing. Anxiety and depression silently but surely creeps in, and nervous breakdown and suicide are the misfortunes that patiently wait at the end of the line.

The Real Solution

With all this talk on gloomy debt and depression, fortunately there is a solution. Acceptance, understanding and an open, child-like mind are the key. Simply stop trying to be the controller. Accept and understand that you can’t control everything. Do what you must, but learn to let go of the things you can’t control. Learn to meditate and find the balance in your life, like a beautiful lotus flower that remains undisturbed amidst troubled and murky waters.