Friday, October 23, 2009

moving on

anjasasha1

you may/may not know i've been struggling with my "direction" at the moment. random enough, i bought the october issue of elle and there was an article that perked my interest. nicole williams wrote a book comparing dating "rules" to the workplace and ones career. i know, it sounds lame and satc-ish, but there was one quote that resonated with me:

elle: you say the biggest mistake women make is staying too long in the wrong job. when is it time to move on?

nw: when women come to me in a state of "i'm done," it can manifest in depression and anxiety. having been divorced, i recognize you might be afraid to leave, and you feel like you've invested so much time and energy, but ultimately, you've got to take a leap. and with a job - unlike with a romantic relationship - if you're wrong, you can go back to what you left.

as much as i try not to, i do love fashion. and i love creating things. when i saw the above jak and jil photo today i was thinking "oooh that dress! the colours, the movement" i don't think i can suppress my love of fashion. i'm thinking more and more about going back to school. having the freedom to open my brain up again and create things that don't have anything to do with "saleability." just thinking out loud.

14 comments:

styleodyssey said...

great post. totally understand where you're coming from. i'm an artist who recently ended a 2-year project because it was time, and i knew exciting ideas were waiting to be visually manifested. so yeah, i hear you. :)
best wishes for whatever you decide to do, fashion or otherwise. (by the way, i did fashion school, too...way back. it was challenging, invigorating and quite a fun ride.)

TERI REES WANG said...

Change is good.
Ambition and motivation are better.
Cutting off a path that is leading no where other than frustration, and finding a more worthy and interesting and attractive destination, in the ultimate in "Best".

Be well. Live swell.

Deborah said...

I too am struggling with my career path - so I know how you feel.

If going back to school is what will allow you to follow your passions and what you love, then by all means, go for it. Sure, there are drawbacks to being a student, but there are far more drawbacks to being constantly and consistently unhappy with a job or career that you don't enjoy.

Good Luck!!

Ammu said...

Go for it - change takes guts...and if nothing else, taking the leap will bring you so much courage. Best of luck!!

Luce said...

ditto all the above- being creative and doing something new is scary as hell but why would you want it any other way? Being scared sometimes reminds me I'm alive, reminds me how amazing and exciting everything is! Good luck.

Veronicahhh said...

i think were all afraid to dive into something new.. what we have is comfortable. if you are thinking about it, just plunge!

p.r.winter said...

Good luck with any decisions you make- I'm going through something similar myself right now. As hard as I'm working, I don't seem to be getting anywhere with my current company. Lack of opportunities, pay freezes etc are making me feel trapped and as though I can't do much about it. I'm very grateful to ahve a job (given the economy) but it's making me wonder whether I'm even in the right industry (fashion). I hope that you manage to find something that will make you happy and feel fulfilled creatively.

On another note- do you know who the dress is by? I'd love something similar for my sister at my wedding in July! Thank you! x x

Stephanie said...

Thanks for your support everyone!

p.r. winter- i'm not sure! it sure is pretty. you might want to check the jak and jil post. sometimes people in the comments know.

minorkeys1@gmail.com said...

i think you'll find much support in this path; go forth with optimism and good cheer! I hope that blogging will be a part of your future, though...
I am also giving/tagging you the Divine Award; drop by my site and have a look if you want.
jules
(minorkeys1.blogspot.com)

What's On The Outside... said...

I swear you took the words right out of my mouth. I've been feeling the same as you for some time now. I've been applying to as many fashion oriented jobs as possible and hope to land on soon. In the meanwhile, I have a long term vision in mind and will also be going back to school.

Life is too short. Do what you love.

Melissa said...

Steph, I read this post the night that you posted it...and it's been stuck in my head ever since! I just can't stop thinking about it. It really hit home for me, and not just in the career part of my life. That one sentence that really got me thinking was the where she says the state of "I'm done" can manifest into depression and anxiety. W-O-W. That's totally me right now. Not only am I in that state right now, but I also have that chicken with the head chopped off syndrome. Ugh...

Have you been journaling/sketching or anything to help you put things in perspective?

Good luck with whichever path you take, knowing you, I'm positive you will rock it!

Ginger & Roxy said...

LOVE this article!!!! Its true though about relationships being like our jobs we pick them both to a certain degree depending on our lifestyle, experience, education etc. They take just as much work to promoted into a "new position" When we feel unappreciated we stop putting in the extra hours...

eva ravenstein said...

thanks for the post, i am feeling the same way...

david john said...

im new to your blog, but just read this post. i recently started an interior design program after thinking about it for years and feeling stuck in my current career. i can only say that it was the right decision. as soon as i began this path, everything seems to be clicking. take a chance on yourself!!! life is short.

all the best.

david john